We are stepping into a heightened state of intensity during these times. The divisiveness between friends, family, neighbors and coworkers is palpable and clouds our personal connections like a dense fog. How can we traverse the years to come when we find that those around us, those whom we have loved and cared for, believe so differently than us?
Number 1: Strip them of their believes within your own mind. Simply see them as a living man or woman as best as you are able with no ideological strings attached. Think of them as a child of God and a creation of our creator. This can be challenging if their beliefs entangle with your view of God, but do your best and try. See them as they once were before you knew they thought and felt THAT way.
Number 2: Refuse to engage in arguments or disagreements. While this may feel like retreating and even laying down your right to be the correct one in this argument, you are providing the possibility of an atmosphere of peace. Remember, seeking to understand is a wiser and higher vantage point than spewing vitriol while viciously hoping you will convince them of their wrong belief.
Number 3: Examine why it is important to you that they change their mind. This is a big one! It was once explained to me long ago, "If you feel the need to convince others with a vehement spirit, perhaps you yourself are uncertain, or not as confident, in what you believe." Having passion, zeal and conviction is a beautiful virtue to have in this life, but keeping peace and connection can be even more powerful.
Number 4: Attempt to find some common ground. If you can capitalize on a shared belief, even it seems insignificant, you can find a social footing where you and the other person can meet. This may not lead to deeper conversations, but at least you have this one area of agreement that can be a safe haven for the two of you. Now, you can always mentally meet in this common ground and feel a sense of connection.
Number 5: Agree to distance or part ways. This is the final option for a reason. We live in a world where, sadly, this is a first resort for so many. The world is now masquerading as brave and empowered by taking the easy way out and "ghosting" or "going no contact." This is often the least healthy route. Popular psychology is promoting this avenue, when it is the antithesis of what true humanistic relationship was meant to be. There is certainly a time to cut off communication when someone is genuinely abusive or intentionally disrespectful in a repetitious manner. However, most of the time, honest, open and direct communication is key. It may be uncomfortable, but it is worth it. Afterall, you most likely have lessons to learn with each person you interact with. If you do not learn the lesson laid out for you from this person, it is highly likely you may encounter them again, or someone similar in a future times to come.
Remember, one of the prime reasons we are here is to experience some heaven on earth and to bring heaven to earth. This is in our home, our place of work, our marketplace and our communities. We get a wonderful ego boost and feel sharpened as we spend time with those who believe just as we believe, but ultimately, we are called to unity. We can work to grow and love others as we ascend into the full manifestation of our calling in this life. This will be a Golden Age for you as you treat others the way you desire to be treated.
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